Parenting is beautiful, and it is a tough job. Is it rewarding, yes. Is it a blessing, yes. Does anyone have all the answers, no. When it comes to parenting we do not have a manual or instructions. Sure, there are books to read, online information, seminars to attend. But, in real time and real life situations we use our best judgement.
Making mistakes as a parent is inevitable. We might feel like we are making the right decision in that moment. Only to discover later on that maybe, just maybe we could have handled it differently.
Feeling guilty about choices we make as it relates to our children can be heavy. At some point we have to move away from the guilt and into forgiveness. How do we do that?
First, we have to be honest with ourselves about what happened and why we made the choice we did. Really reflect and sit in that feeling, own it and understand your actions(s).
Ask yourself, how you might do things a little different the next time the situation arises. More than likely it will. Play in your mind ways that may have resulted in a positive outcome for all involved.
Give yourself a break and realize that no one is perfect. We make mistakes. Practice forgiving yourself and move on from it. Try not to harp on it. Reliving this in your mind keeps you stuck in that moment and prevents you from moving forward.
Along with loving our kids, we must release the feeling of guilt. By doing so, we can show up and be more focused when it’s time to wear the parenting hat.
📞Try talking to a friend or another parent for support.
✍️If that is not an option put pen to paper. This can be very effective and therapeutic.
🗣️Atone for the mistake by apologizing to your child(ren). It will demonstrate your willingness to own up to the mistake.
I am not talking about feeling guilty as it relates to basic structure and discipline. This is a part of our responsibility as mothers and fathers.
What is your take on forgiving yourself for parenting mistakes? Is it possible to get past it?
