You are exactlywhere you need to be. When you land in a place that looks unfamiliar, why question it?
You think you should be somewhere else. But in reality, the place you are today was destined for you, only you.
If you see a friend and they are ahead of you in their career, don’t fret. Go at your own pace. Maybe you are going slower but your reward will be greater when you arrive.
We all have those years of progress, slow but steady. Bumpy roads that feel like a stop sign. The bumps are a test to see if we will keep going or quit.
You are exactly where you need to be. We can make all the plans in the world but, we are not in control; no, the Creator is.
You are exactly where you need to be
Thank you for reading Why Question It? 💖🙏🏽
The writing is in response to the prompt by Sadje.
⏳If you were given the chance to reset your life and start again, would you? ⌛
Life is a melting pot of good times, great memories, mistakes, regrets and much more. Sometimes we might dwell on a past error and wish we could do it all over. Maybe, we would have made another choice to improve the outcome.
I would have to answer, no. I believe who we are is determined by our mistakes and triumphs. Some of those fails give us a chance to get it right later. The triumphs in life are a testament that we can accomplish our goals.
The happy moments bring peace and joy into our hearts. Allowing us to extend kindness to others. I am grateful for all the great times and the not-so-great ones. Experience in life is a wonderful teacher.
🤔 Can you answer this?
If you were given the chance to reset your life and start again, would you?
you're up next smiling and sweating is this real on the mic speaking word my thighs trembling snap, snap my smile grew
I knew then I can't mess this up ankles weak lights blinding just who do I think I am calm down, you got this
Thank you for reading my poem, Fighting the Feeling; Stage Fright. It is a Shadorma written for the W3prompt. 🙏🏽💖 This is the first time writing this poem style. I’m not sure if it is right, but I enjoyed it!
Speaking in front of a crowd can be a scary thing. The physical things that you feel standing up there. It’s amazing how the body responds and the thoughts that run through your mind. The inner ‘prep talk’ is what helped me get through the recital of Until That Day.
That one place Place no one knows Knows not where to look Look but unable to find Find your place of peace Peace not to be disturbed Disturbed for only one minute Minute that feels like eternity Eternity only an exaggeration Exaggeration of time Time only imagined Imagined to be infinite Infinite it is not Not by a longshot
That one place Place now found Found, no longer sacred Sacred, private, peaceful Peaceful once, now tarnished Tarnished, perturbed, just bothered Bothered, tense, no longer a place of refuge Refuge from the outside noise Noise like loud and quiet chatter Chatter unnecessary and shady Shady in times when light is needed Needed to block out murder masked as self-defense Self-defense now used as a cover up Cover up for ill behavior of the letter groups
Can’t we all just get along Along with each other Other people, faiths and skin tones Skin tones, just the outer part Part of the core of a human Human, we bleed the same as you You are not entitled to harass at will Will led by your lack of understanding Understanding nothing when it comes to rights Rights to which you are not the dictator Dictator to all people you deem unworthy Unworthy to be here just like you You in all your glory are delusional Delusional, unfair, self-righteous to a fault
Place of peace, interrupted
As I write this, I am thinking about everything going on in the world right now and in the recent past. Too many people are senselessly losing their lives, and for what? People who feel that they are more powerful than you. People who feel that we are not worthy of life on this earth. The same way they are living and breathing; we have the right to be here too. The world is in chaos and a lot of us are experiencing unrest. Any semblance of peace, fading away. It is a sad state of affairs.
I can go on, but I think from the poem, you get where I am going with my sentiments. The price of peace should not be this expensive. Such a simple concept seems like too much to ask. Peace looks different for all of us. Be it 10 minutes alone with your thoughts, a one-hour nap, 20 minutes of meditation or cherished time with loved ones. Maybe, a day of not having to look over your shoulder in fear of being snatched up on the street.
Thank you for taking the time to read the post. My hope is that sooner rather than later, things will look up. I know in my heart that better days are to come. Prayer is always bigger than any problem.
How to Break Out of Self-Limiting Beliefs and into Your Greatness
We all have the potential of greatness. Yes, even you. Some of us doubt ourselves and I understand at times when this can happen. It is the constant belief that we cannot achieve something that gets in the way. The negative self-talk and the constant questioning of our abilities.
I’ll give you an example. If you ever came up with an idea about a new product that you wanted to patent or an idea on a project that you wanted to start. The more you think about it, you start letting that doubt creep in. Saying things like, I can’t do this, I don’t have the capital. Or, I don’t know where to begin. Who am I kidding, this will never work because I don’t have the people skills, etc, etc.
The more days that pass the less you are excited about the idea. You started out all gung-ho but each day that this repeated cycle of negativity plays in your head, the idea is killed. Maybe it gets postponed to; someday. We all know that infamous someday.
In this video I will provide practical tips about ways we can begin breaking the cycle of self-limitations and start tapping into our greatness.
Thank you for stopping by! If you know someone who may benefit or enjoy the information, do not hesitate to share. You never know who might need to hear this message today.
A video message about how we can examine our lives and see where we can make changes for personal growth. It is easy to get stuck in the same ole ritual and routines. Before you know it, you look up and discover that 2 years have gone by and things are just as they were this whole time.
In this video, I will share some ideas to get started on a path of growth and challenging ourselves. If you find yourself feeling stuck or stagnant; don’t fret, we can always change things. The rewards are great when we do. We feel a sense of achievement, we make ourselves more open to trying new things and we also get a boost in confidence.
Get out your pen and paper and take notes. It may feel like a homework assignment, but it will be one of the the best investments of time that we can pour into ourselves!
“Not everything that is faced can be changed but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”-James Baldwin
The first thing we are going to do is compile a list. Review that list and ask yourself the following questions:
Am I learning anything from this activity?
Am I growing mentally, emotionally or physically?
Does this activity challenge me?
Secondly, seek out new activities
Do some research, talk to people you know who may make a suggestion
Try to pick something that is not your usual go-to or something that you may not have been interested in before, try it now
Lastly, challenge yourself by overcoming a fear
Ex: if you are afraid of heights, if you feel socially awkward or are afraid to speak in public.
I hope you find the information in this video useful. As always, thank you for watching.
Thank you for stopping by! Stay well and be blessed! 💖
Social media is here to stay. Do you think it strengthens or destroys meaningful real-life connections? It can go either way. I think it all depends on how you use it and how much of it you consume.
Some people live by social media. What I mean by that is that some people take what they see and hear online and apply it to their personal lives. They start to believe everthing they see and they lose the autonomy of their own personal beliefs.
Social media is used for a variety of reasons. Some people use it to help boost their business. Others use it for personal entertainment, recreational use. It can be a tool to use to showcase your hobbies and personal endeavors. If you are a singer or an artist. Maybe you want to share some educational information.
SM can strengthen connections because you can find useful information about some things in your life and gain a better understanding. You may be looking for a way to empathize with someone in your life and form a better relationship with them. It can open the doors for communication and bridge the gap for some situations.
It can be destructive when people are purposly using it as a means to hurt others. Trolling and saying hurtful things to others. It’s like cyberbullying. Other times people hear stories about infidelity and then they start thinking negative of their mates.
The key to it, in my opinion, is to limit the time spent on social media. Also, know what you believe in and stay true to that. We all are entitled to our opinions and that’s what it is, opinion. Sometimes we confuse it with facts. Just remember that we had real life before social media. Real life is always better than the internet. Have fun with it, make others smile, inform, share your gifts.
The Isle of Ova, a place to heal. Health takes an ugly turn and the aftermath of solving one problem, brings on another entire set of new ones. The Isle of Ova is a place for reflection. Healing can begin when you take time to really sit and think about things that transpire.
Life is such a magical wonder. Such small organs of a woman’s body have so many beneficial and essential functions. Modern technology in medicine makes it possible to take care of uterine fibroids and other women’s health problems. This poem was written in recognition of Fibroid Awareness Month.
Dear Ovaries You hold the beginning Until time to go down the halls Into the incubator
The incubator which awaits the sperm Fertilizing, growing, forming Just what mother nature intended Creating life, performing
Dear Ovaries Release protecting hormones Estrogen, progesterone, testosterone Supporting libido all the way through Helping with strength of my bones
Dear Ovaries Regulating hormonal balances Body temperature, sleep cycle Emotional and physical health alike
Ovaries, I bid you farewell Fibroids, ovarian cysts invading space Pain, bleeding, energy drained Quality of life displaced
Pain and bleeding stopped, energy restored New set of angst replaced Hot flashes, insomnia, moodiness and night sweats A sense of loss and new body shape
HRT, calcium, vitamin D Bones slowly restoring health Libido in the wind Wondering if you will ever see it again
Dear Ovaries Such an organ to behold Your functions, more precious than gold Oophorectomy means to take A woman's core keepsake
Healing On the Isle of Ova is written in response to the W3 Prompt #169.
A holding season is a time when we are less active. If you are someone who has to fill up every day with event after event, but now you are slowing down. You are in a holding season. Maybe you like to run the streets and fill your calendar with things to do and places to go, but are doing less of that; you are in a holding season.
A holding season gives us opportunity to slow down and frees up our mind to explore other things.
What lead you to your holding season?
💲Money- You are low on funds and need time to build your savings again. This means you are spending less and are at home more. Take this time to do some things around the house. Maybe finish that project you started months ago. Straighten your closets or clean out those junk drawers. You know those junk drawers😄
🚘 Transportation- You do not have a car right now. Maybe it is having repairs done or not running like it used to. You are now thinking twice about where and how often you travel. Taking a cab or using ride share costs money and can add up quickly. You are in a holding season. Use this time to evaluate and think of other creative ways to fill your day.
🏥 Family/medical leave- Being away from your job to take care of a family member or your own medical needs, places you in a holding season. Use this time to come up with other things to do. Things that you wouldn’t otherwise have time to do because you are usually working. If you used to read books, start that again. If you like to do crafts, start that hobby again. You get where I’m going with this.
A holding season forces us to reimagine and rethink our lives. The day to day. We start to gain clarity about how we are spending our time. Whether or not we can make small changes. This can be a good thing for us moving forward.
When the holding season is over you can decide if you will go back to the things you did before. Maybe you might decide to live differently. It’s up to you.
Procrastination is something that we have all done at some point in our lives. It is that putting off of something that we need to do. But why? The cause can be many.
Don’t procrastinate. Why put off until tomorrow what you can do today?
What does procrastination mean?
The act of delaying or postponing something.
Why do we do it?
Fear– we put off doing things because we are afraid that we might get it wrong. We might fear being made fun of if we do something and we make a mistake. Making a mistake is not the end of the world. No one is perfect so we cannot expect to never make a mistake in life.
Not knowing what to do– If we are faced with something that we need to do, we might not know what to do or how to do it. Therefore, we hesitate or stall. Being unsure of the necessary steps can hold us back. At this point, we might consider gathering information and then making a move.
Unimportant– When the task is not important to us, we figure why the rush. No need to act on it immediately. It can wait until later. We might view it as unimportant because we do not want to do it.
Lack of managing time– We know we have to be somewhere on a certain day and we need to prepare. We wait until the night before. This puts us in the mode of damage control. Because we did not give ourselves enough time to prepare, we are now trying to compensate for the work we did not do beforehand.
How can we get over the procrastination hurdle?
Complete tasks in stages– If we know we have 6 days to prepare for a meeting or presentation. Break the project down into increments each day, so that it is manageable and less overwhelming.
Rethink the way we prioritize– Look at the tasks at hand in a different way. If you usually wait until the 25th hour, rethink it. Start on tasks a few days earlier. Tell yourself that this is something that must be done, so get an early jump on it. Start right away when you realize that this is something that is unavoidable.
Schedule specific time– Set aside an hour or two each day or once a week so that you can work on the specific task. This way, you already know that on Mondays and Thursdays from 10:00am-11:00am, is set aside specifically for the task. Put it on your calendar or white board so that it is in sight. This is your reminder so there is no excuse to miss a deadline.
Get rid of distractions– Distractions like playing video games, watching TV or “doom scrolling” on the internet can be major distractions. These things get in the way and cause us to waste time when we could be working on our task. Maybe we can do the task first and then if we want to do those other things, we can put those “distractions” off until after we have done the work.
Can you think of a time when you let procrastination take over? It can get in the way of real progress at times. Making us feel like we cannot accomplish things when we constantly put things off. It is not too late though. If we recognize the signs and rethink it, we can certainly do it!
The attached article, The Game of Life; Are You Playing Offense or Defense? is also about how we manage things in life. It might provide some insight and give information about how we can do things differently. Check it out.
Life is a series of learning experiences, events and emotions. In this video message, I talk about choosing to have a good day when you may not be in the best of moods. If you have absolutely no reason to be ill, ask yourself why. This might be a good time to talk to yourself and talk yourself into a better disposition.
(Previously recorded on June 20, 2025) Video Message- Why Have a Bad Day
Tears of Understanding- A poem about judgments and cultivating relationships. Building relationships with people can sometimes be hindered by unfair judgments. We can avoid assumptions about each other by taking the time to have a conversation or simply asking a question.
Tears of Understanding- A Poem video message
Please don't misunderstand what's that you hear yeah, smothered tears tears tears
Please don't misunderstand not being heard, but seen instead seeing me me me
Please don't misunderstand seeing me is not my clothes not my hair and definitely not my face nah nah nah
Please understand my brotha, my sista Black woman I am Boricua I am
My complexion mine your complexion yours my inflection mine mine mine your perplexion yours yours yours
Please understand you will never understand the whys, I give benefit of doubt because it was not given to me
Underestimated Misjudged Misunderstood Even hated
Please understand my silence, my strength to the underlying slick tongue the slick tongue that takes jabs at my person
Please understand, no overstand my shoes you cannot walk in they were not made for you your shoes not made for me
Even still, you hold your truth I hold mine, the same but different tears tears tears, of not sadness
Tears for you you you Judgments you hold for me are really for you you you Understand?!
Shopping in peace is all we want to do. Why is it that African Americans and the Hispanic populations get followed around the store? Racial profiling exists and it is time to put these stores on notice. Why Are You Shadowing Me? is a video message about just that. What can we do to stop the discrimination and unfair treatment?
Share your thoughts about this issue.
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The video message is about showing humility when blessings come our way. Be humble and grateful for all your blessings. Boasting and bragging is not the way. Just as quickly as God blesses us, he can taketh away. Celebrate and be happy for others the same as you would want them to be happy for you in return.
If this message resonates with you, please share with someone who you think may like the message as well. If it is on your heart, please leave a comment on how this message has changed you in some way or given a new perspective.
Video Message- He Can Take It Away
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